"Let it Ride"

"Let it Ride"

Day Twenty-Two of the Self-love 31-day 5-minute challenge: Expectations.

A "BIG energy" expectations; we all have them, and they can rule over us if we let them. I believe the only way to avoid the dark side of expectations is to learn how to 'manage' our anticipation of people, places, and situations. An unfortunate Challenge of having high hopes; it can and does prevent us from enjoying the experience altogether.

Therefore, let's practice being open to life!

We are not going just to delete the idea of not having expectation(s), nor should we, having an idea, or wanting something in our lives and expecting it to turn out is natural, it gives us something to move towards. What causes the downside; is our attachment to the outcome. It can wallop us when we don't get the desired result. Most of us have experienced great disappoint at some point in our life.

When we hold steadfast to our ideas about how things need to turn out, we can't help but be disappointed, hurt and let down.

What can we do? We can practice having 'less' expectations, be open to more exploration, and trust the process, that life will throw us curve balls, people also what their way and situation don't always turn out the way we want!

But that doesn't and won't always change our disappointment. But if we can practice adopting a free-flowing attitude, and a knowing, that things don't always turn out the way we planned, we are meeting our expectations with an openness that allows us not to be so rigid and disappointed with our outcomes, but open to new opportunities.
This way of being affords us let judgments of ourselves and others.

There are amazing benefits practicing acceptance; most situations in our lives needs to be mindfully worked toward to set us free. Dolby Dharma

Today's Mantra: I Am open to unexpected outcomes!

“Expect the unexpected, believe in the unbelievable, and achieve the unachievable.” ~Ashley Fern

Let yourself receive

What a great feeling it is to let go and allow yourself to receive all the gifts life offers. When we receive, it allows the giver to feel joy. Giving and receiving is a two-way exchange of energy that can nourish and nurture both parties.

I know many people who are uncomfortable with receiving or taking anything. I once asked a friend why it was hard to accept; she replied, "I would feel like I owe them something, or I was obligated to return the favor in kind." How sad not to feel worthy of a gift of any kind, love, monetary, or just a compliment without feeling you must give it back.

I know when I give my, time, money, energy, love, and kindness; I am giving with an open heart because it gives me pleasure. It is the ebb and flow of an open-hearted energy exchange of what life is all about.

It took me a long time to kick it back and receive. I was always the doer, rescuer, and the giver. In some ways, it gave me some control over the situation. Receiving was perceived to be a weakness, that I needed something. When the 'AHA' moment came to me that I was robbing another of an opportunity to give, I learned to say, "Thank You." The more I engaged in that, the better I began to feel about letting go and receiving the gifts I deserved and witnessed the pleasure the giver received.

Growing up being the oldest of nine I was always the caregiver, the doer and just giving my time and energy to keep it all together. I guess you could say it was an occupational birth order hazard. 
The automatic mother in me! It took me many many years to let go of being the one to give up myself and allow others the pleasure of giving.

The act of receiving and being open also brings us many other blessings; renewed sense of self, you are more creative and have more energy, and rightfully so, you are finding your balance, you don't feel drained, there is a reason to express your creative side. The more you open and receive life's gifts, you release stagnant energy in the body that has been blocked being on the one-way highway and you begin to heal in miraculous ways.

Open up to receiving, when you need something; reach out and ask, you will never know the answer if you don't ask the question. People are good natured and want to help in any way they can, they don't read minds, they feel the energy. Find your balance, let love in, and let the help of another ease your daily burdens.

Love is in you and all around you. Just expand your heart and allow life to fill you with the healing balm of love. YOU deserve it! Dolby Dharma