Aren't you worth your own love and approval?

How do you define your self-worth? Do you view yourself through your looks, education, performance, material assets, etc.;? 
These are aspects of our wounded self, seeking approval that we are ok, we matter, we are accepted. If you find yourself always seeking the approval of the external to gauge who you are, where you are, if you are loved and why you exist, that creates internal anxiety which continues to feed the unexcepted self.

What are the signs; feeling anxious, unsafe, always apologizing for BEing you, afraid of making a mistake, giving your power over to another to steer your course and rejection of the self.

Waking up to ourselves is looking at the truth about who we are, what we do and who or what we give ourselves away to.

Seeking the truth is creating an inner bonding with YOURSELF. We must seek internal guidance from what we know to be true for us. Our answers lay in wait validating our truth, acceptance, and approval when we are ready to listen and trust ourselves.

We have all heard that tiny voice that we sometimes ignore because of our insecurities. Deep down we know that we allow the external world to control us in some ways. It is time to break free of the hold of other people's opinions, ideas, and beliefs and begin to love ourselves more.

When we start to trust ourselves more, our views of ourselves goes up, and we gradually stop seeking so much attention and validation from others. Believe in YOU, after all; you are your best friend who never leaves you unless YOU abandon yourself. Dolby Dharma

“Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.”~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Bonding with ourselves!

Bonding, a natural, nurturing, internal process that is crucial for our development. Rushing life takes away the experience we need to survive in this world. Inner bonding is a healing salve that lubricates the body, mind, and soul. Let life unfold naturally in its own time.

Cocoon and the Butterfly

Many of us know that a beautiful and colourful butterfly comes from an unappealing worm! Here is the story of a butterfly that was never able to live its life as a normal butterfly.

One day, a man saw a cocoon. He loved butterflies and had a craze for its wonderful combination of colours. In fact, he used to spend a lot of time around butterflies. He knew how a butterfly would struggle to transform from an ugly caterpillar into a beautiful one.

He saw the cocoon with a tiny opening. It meant that the butterfly was trying to make its way out to enjoy the world. He decided to watch how the butterfly would come out of the cocoon. He was watching the butterfly struggling to break the shell for several hours. He spent almost more than 10 hours with the cocoon and the butterfly. The butterfly had been struggling very hard for hours to come out through the tiny opening. Unfortunately, even after continuous attempts for several hours, there was no progress. It seemed that the butterfly had tried its best and could not give any more try.

The man, who had a passion and love for butterflies, decided to help the butterfly. He got a pair of scissors and tweaked the cocoon to make larger opening for the butterfly and removed the remaining cocoon. The butterfly emerged without any struggle!

Unfortunately, the butterfly looked no longer beautiful and had a swollen body with small and withered wings.

The man was happy that he had made the butterfly come out of the cocoon without any more struggles. He continued to watch the butterfly and was quite eager to see it fly with its beautiful wings. He thought that at any time, the butterfly might expand its wings, shrink the body and the wings could support the body. Unfortunately, neither did the wings expand nor the swollen body reduce.

Unfortunately, the butterfly just crawled around with withered wings and a huge body. It was never able to fly. Although the man did it with a good intention, he did not know that only by going through struggles the butterfly can emerge to be beautiful, with strong wings.

The continuous effort from the butterfly to come out of its cocoon would let the fluid stored in the body be converted into wings. Thus, the body would become lighter and smaller, and the wings would be beautiful and large.

If we don’t want to undergo any struggle, we won’t be able to fly!

Struggles make us shine!

Be here NOW!

We all have a past, some of us love to walk down memory lane and tell our stories, while others still live in the past. When a story of the past brings you sweet joy and gratitude at this moment, that is a gift to be embraced. You feel grateful for what brought you in the here and now, and a jog down memory lane is just that, a quick run, you don't live there anymore.

Unfortunately for some, their lives are based on what was, what happened and letting go of their past can be painful and challenging, all brought on by the thoughts they are thinking.

When we live, our lives rooted in what was; we rob ourselves of 'living fully' in 'what is' happening now. Life unfolds in the present time. Bonding with our current moments is where we can feel and be fully alive.

Be mindful of where your thoughts go and how they make you feel. Create experiences that can bring us peace, joy, and equanimity.

Gratitude is the honoring of the 'Right Now moment.' Be here now!  Dolby Dharma

“It's here now that's important. There's no past, and there's no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can't relive it, and we can hope for the future, but we don't know if there is one.” 
― George Harrison

Show a little kindness to yourself!

The most significant relationship you will ever have is the one you create for yourself. Begin each morning giving yourself a little kindness, I know you can rock that! Nobody does it better than you!

Self-love, kindness is the best way to great the day, it is a feeling of warmth, it feels cozy, and it is bonding. Watch your words to yourself; be patient, focus on your breath, allow yourself to feel your feelings without judgments about them being good or not so good.

With self-kindness, you create space for yourself, and it allows others to be themselves and experience their emotions. How we treat ourselves is vital, it shapes the way we look, how we treat people, but most of all it is the best healing balm on the planet. It begins with you!

Listen carefully to the whispers of your heart, know that you deserve to receive good in all ways. Embracing your beautiful self; creates ♥More FUN ♥ More LOVE ♥ More ABUNDANCE ♥

If your everyday practice is to open to all your emotions, to all the people you meet, to all the situations you encounter, without closing down, trusting that you can do that — then that will take you as far as you can go. And then you'll understand all the teachings that anyone has ever taught.
PEMA CHODRON

Remembered in love!

We are back in blog land after seven months of life changing events. Love exists in ALL ways and in each one of us. It always will be the best part of our lives.

Life is short not to send love, give love, and appreciate those who are in your life. Special tokens of love are so memorable to each of us. We always want to re-member and be remembered whether we are here on earth or transition to our next life. That is why adornments get passed down generation to generation. A time for remembering those who have left us.

Ellie, my partner, lost her dear beloved hubby on August 30th, 2016, so you can only imagine that blogging was not on the list. She was attending to her family and honoring the love she and Dewain shared for 52 years this month.

We love sharing stories about our bonding blankets; A couple of years ago Ellie sent Dewain a bonding blanket to let him know how much she cherished their love.

Dewain believed in our Bonding Blanket; he was so very supportive of all the things we wanted to accomplish with this little blanket of love.

Dewain slept with his Bonding Blanket every night up until the day he left planet earth. His Scent is left behind on his Bonding Blanket, and Ellie assures me that eventually she will wash this blanket filled with his love and replace the smell with his aftershave Cologne. Love never dies!

RIP Sweet Man!

“Silently, one by one, in the infinite meadows of heaven,

Blossomed the lovely stars, the forget-me-nots of the angels.” 
― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Mother's Day!

The joys of Momhood!

With Mother's day around the corner, we know how much you want to show your appreciation for Mom. Let's make Mom happy this year, with something that is going to last, won't go out of style and doesn't she doesn't need to get all dressed up for. Send your love wrapped up in a bonding blanket. Every time she holds it or looks at the blanket she will think of how wonderful it is to have YOU as her baby! In the early morning when she NOW gets to sleep in she can put the blanket over her eyes and take a few extra snoozes.

Order up until May 2 so we can guarantee it before Mother's day, which is Sunday, May 8th. The price for ONE blanket is $24.00 and when you buy two blankets because we all have that extra someone in our lives whose been like a Mom to us and you will receive $10.00 off your entire purchase, remember it has to be TWO bonding blankets. Type in the code TEN when checking out.

This includes wrapping in tissue paper with pretty silk ribbon and FREE shipping!

Mommy I love you (it begins with a healing).

 Click on the picture to read the entire article Healing the Mother Wound, a GREAT article. 

 Click on the link to read the entire article Healing the Mother Wound, a GREAT article. 

I was reading an article the other day about healing the Mother wound; I was very touched by many bullet points the article shared remembering the day of my healing with my mom at the young age of 24 years. When we are little, feeling connected to our moms in the early years is so natural, you did not think about it, after all, it is MOM, the caregiver, the MOTHER.

As time marched on and I got older I could feel the separation from my mom, not being conscious of the subtle change, I slowly was transferring my needs for comfort, understanding, and connection onto my girlfriends. The duality of life was taking form; I was disconnecting wanting to be independent, but still wanting my connection to my familiar mom. 

Fast forward with a connection in mind, in 2013 my partner Ellie Bracken and I created the 'The Bonding Blanket', a unique way to connect with our friends, loves, mentors, sibs, etc. The idea behind our bonding blanket is likened to the woobie blanket, a favorite toy that we felt connected, loved and safe with when we were young, and it was given to us by someone special, most likely our moms.

We have succeeded; how do we know this? The stories that our customers have shared with us, and the many ways the bonding blanket has been gifted. We know this bonding blanket is making a difference. We love our favorite things!

With all this in mind, let us not forget Mother's day is fast approaching and what a beautiful, loving way to express your feelings by giving her something she can cuddle with and know that she is loved. Don't forget your Grandmothers, Aunts, and anyone you want to show your love.
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