"Serving up a dose of deserve"

Self-acceptance or self-love, when approached from a deeper level of our true nature-love, is not superficial or vanity. Self-love is an honoring of our life-force by loving ourselves no matter what flaws, qualities or challenges we may hold within and express without.

We can begin each day with new thoughts, new discoveries, and a new awareness.

When are intentions are for the highest good of self-acceptance and kindness for humanity, everyone benefits!

We are all unique expressions working our way back to ourselves. How Awesome is that?

" You are allowed to be a masterpiece and work in progress simultaneously. - Sophia Bush"

— feeling Amazing.

"Feelin Alright"

"Feelin Alright"

Day Twenty-Seven of the Self-love 31-day 5-minute Challenge: Self-Awareness

Create a list of at least 10 of your virtues, talents, accomplishments, and the things that make you 'uniquely' you. We all have many attributes that make us distinctive, some we are aware of, and others not so much. Getting to know thyself in a busy world is not an easy task unless we make some time to acknowledge ourselves.

Journaling our features helps us recognize ourselves, and maybe ignite a spark to help us hone in on a quality about ourselves we might not be aware of that we can foster more of.

Creating a daily habit of self-awareness contributes to changing up the way you might feel about yourself in a positive way, and allow for more acceptance when things don't go how you would like them. Unfortunately, that is when we can beat ourselves up, and give up.
Most of all don't be shy about your qualities, you are an amazing being, and self-awareness is where you can discover your dormant treasures.

A real voyage of Self-discovery ahead. Bon Voyage!  Dolby Dharma

The Mantra: “I celebrate my gifts by confidently offering my talents to the world. Sharing with others adds richness and depth to all I do.”

"All of us have to seek in our own way to make our own selves nobler and to realize our own true worth." - Albert Schweitzer

Befriending Yourself; Make time for a play date."

"Befriending Yourself; Make time for a play date."

Day Fifteen of the Self-love 31-day 5-minute challenge: Friendship

I invite you to BEfriend yourself, you are wondering how do I do that, or what does that look like! First; everything begins within! There is no question about that. What's on the inside vibes on the outside, that is the law of attraction. Before we can be any kind of friend, we must start with ourselves. We most likely don't even think about ourselves in that light.

Today, just for five minutes’ feel what it's like to be a bit more “Self-ISH” (not selfish) but taking care of your own well-being and not leaving yourself behind so that you can bring to the table the very best YOU. After all, everywhere you go there you are, love that expression.

Being a friend to yourself is the introduction to the beginnings of relationships with others. First, we must approve and accept ourselves before we can share that friendship with another.

Think about how many times you have gone out of your way for a friend to be kind, and leave yourself out. How many times did you sacrifice yourself for another's attention and time without giving yourself that same courtesy? Plenty, I am sure, I know because I have done it.

It is crazy how great we can be to others showing them the BEST parts of our 'Giving Tree', but when it comes to our own needs, that goes on the back burner. Not being friends with ourselves doesn't allow sustainability with others. 

Being a good, kind, loving BF is showing YOURSELF that same grace and hospitality that we show our friends. Be kind to yourself, embrace your humanness; Celebrate yourself as a part of a whole family, the likenesses of all those outside ourselves, that we truly are, imperfect, perfect, filled with magic, filled with love to share and wanting to be loved, accepted, appreciated and most important, connected.

Self-friendship is knowing YOU. It’s not only about embracing the less appetizing parts of ourselves, but also engaging a strength that perhaps has gone unnoticed because we might have been looking outside for that part of ourselves. Befriending yourself is about coming into your fullness. If we don’t treat ourselves in a friendly manner, we don’t treat life in a friendly fashion.

I have always believed, "the best way to have a friend is to be a friend to yourself first and foremost."  What you do for yourself, affects your world outside of you, remember to practice random acts of kindness towards yourself! Dolby Dharma

The Mantra: I AM my own best friend. I choose to give love to myself first and foremost.

"Loving yourself...does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion." ~ Margo Anand

A self-unloved!

A self-unloved!
Self-love such a "cliché'" some say, but it is not. Last night, my brother passed away; he was three years younger than me. I watched and experienced him live in chaos his entire life, destroying all that was beautiful and good in his life all because he did not love himself.

He had many addictions, the main one was alcohol, he started drinking at a very young age. Alcohol like 'everything' in life, creeps in on you and takes you over, changes the chemistry in your body, mind, and spirit. Eventually, my brother's drinking became his method of self-medication; to escape his deep pain and suffering he lived with since a young boy.

 When I asked him why he drank; he said it took him away from himself and gave him a sense of feeling safe, powerful, and self-confidence, he would say, "I am on top of the world," that was his exact expression. I knew it was to escape his life, to escape the pain he was enduring within.

 Without getting into the details of my brother's life. In the earlier years, his late twenties, my early thirties. He was already showing signs of life that will eventually spiral down. The seeds of an unloved-self were being planted and watered in alcohol. As I revisit the memories of his life, I can see clearly that all the watering of love I or anyone could give wasn't the antidote to the love he needed to give himself. God only knows we all worked to make him better, but there is NO 'making' anyone better. Maybe we do it for ourselves so we can feel better so we can continue to be around. The truth is, none of us know what is best for anyone; it's an inside job.

There were so many times he wanted to quit drinking and get his life together, I so believed him, and so did he, but the patterned repeated itself too many times, my hope turned into anger, helplessness, and despair.

Back then I did not have that much knowledge about the depths of what alcoholism was, with the exception that I wanted to get away from it, our father was a drinker.

Bringing alcoholism and the behavior that stems from it to his relationships always ended badly. That called for another drink.

Eventually, everyone abandons him, only to confirm the ugly feelings he was feeling, the feelings that brought him to alcohol in the first place, to take him away from himself. But the truth was, he abandoned himself. He just could not grasp that concept.

No one could have saved him, but him, unfortunately when behaviors are involved not too many people want to take on that challenge, I for one tried to but had my issues to sort out. He tried rehab, but if you don't get to the roots, nothing changes. Recovery is a deep knowing, an AHA, and the answer.

The long goodnight finally came for my brother last night, despite all his crazy making he brought to our family, he was always loved by my husband and me. I could no long talk with him because his energy overpowered me, but my husband til the day he passed was kind, loving and a friend to my brother. I know that my husband's generosity was my brothers only hope that life was good.
He passed with that in his heart. Rest in peace little brother; now you are dancing amongst the stars. <3

Love yourself "Addiction is the only prison where the locks are on the inside."

Out of your head and into your heart!

Note to self: Be kinder to yourself. Send out the vibrations you wish to experience in your life; that is the law of attraction.

What comes to you is the perfect opportunity to make it what you want. Remember we are always in tune with our emotions.

No matter who or what sets us off, we have choices. IN joy the beautiful you. Find all that is right, in you, around you, above and below. You are the Universe!

I shall no longer entertain negative thoughts or self-saboteur
feelings to zap me of my energy. 
I shall focus on all the unordinary, fantastic and kindness that is in my life.
I will think it, feel it, and speak it loving thoughts.
I will send out vibes of positive energy into the world. 
I shall be grateful for all the wonderful things it will attract into my life.

I am an open and willing vessel. Breathe the mental self-nurturing energy into the rest of your body. Get out of your head and into your heart. <3 Dolby Dharma

Never blame another person for your personal choices - you are still the one who must live out the consequences of your choices. Caroline Myss

 — feeling grateful.

Aren't you worth your own love and approval?

How do you define your self-worth? Do you view yourself through your looks, education, performance, material assets, etc.;? 
These are aspects of our wounded self, seeking approval that we are ok, we matter, we are accepted. If you find yourself always seeking the approval of the external to gauge who you are, where you are, if you are loved and why you exist, that creates internal anxiety which continues to feed the unexcepted self.

What are the signs; feeling anxious, unsafe, always apologizing for BEing you, afraid of making a mistake, giving your power over to another to steer your course and rejection of the self.

Waking up to ourselves is looking at the truth about who we are, what we do and who or what we give ourselves away to.

Seeking the truth is creating an inner bonding with YOURSELF. We must seek internal guidance from what we know to be true for us. Our answers lay in wait validating our truth, acceptance, and approval when we are ready to listen and trust ourselves.

We have all heard that tiny voice that we sometimes ignore because of our insecurities. Deep down we know that we allow the external world to control us in some ways. It is time to break free of the hold of other people's opinions, ideas, and beliefs and begin to love ourselves more.

When we start to trust ourselves more, our views of ourselves goes up, and we gradually stop seeking so much attention and validation from others. Believe in YOU, after all; you are your best friend who never leaves you unless YOU abandon yourself. Dolby Dharma

“Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.”~Ralph Waldo Emerson