What did or do you have to comfort you as a kid and now an adult?

Did You Have A ‘Blankie’ As A Kid?
Hug that blankie a little closer tonight.

Whether it’s a blanket, a stuffed animal, or any scrap of something soft, comfort objects, also known as transitional objects, are used by many children as a way to soothe themselves without the help of their parents.

In 1951, child psychologist Dr. D.W. Winnicott first defined the transitional object as “any material to which an infant attributes a special value and by means of which the child can make the necessary shift from the earliest oral relationship with the mother to genuine object-relationships.”

In other words, these security blankets enable children to establish connections to the outside world, apart from the mother.
Such objects are commonly adopted when children go off to school or daycare as a way to ease the separation anxiety they experience away from Mom and Dad.

Contrary to the popular wisdom of the past, children with comfort objects are not defective or overly “babyish.” In fact, their comfort objects may empower them to be more independent than their peers. With the trusty reassurance of a teddy or blanket by their side, children can feel more secure in unfamiliar situations like daycare or school. When you fall on the playground and Mom isn’t there to kiss it better, that teddy or blankie makes it all okay. Studies show that kids with such objects are less shy and more focused than children without them. Their lovey objects are like the first training wheels for telling themselves “you’re all right.” With a built-in sense of security, children feel safe enough to take small risks, explore and grow.

As a child’s first chosen “not-me possession,” comfort objects help kids self-soothe and establish themselves as individuals separate from their parents. Because of the profound importance bestowed upon these items by the child, experts posit that any criticism or denial of the chosen toy may lead to attachment difficulties later in life.

Comfort objects are incredibly common: 60% of children have them, as well as 35% of adults.
It’s essential that children decide for themselves when to reject or put away their comfort object.

That’s not to say that comfort objects must be “outgrown.” Therapist Gerri Luce, LCSW says that even adults can benefit from the presence of beloved items to get them through difficult periods, as long as the object doesn’t interfere with one’s intimate or professional relationships (it’s probably best not to take blankie to work).

Many adults, whether they realize it or not, adopt other kinds of objects to cope with daily stresses.

Journals in which we express our feelings, keepsakes that remind us of a loved one, or even phones that connect us to others when we’re alone can serve functions similar to those of a child’s security blanket. While we may leave behind the beloved teddy bear, the need for a physical object that brings us joy and comfort is not specifically childish.

As psychologist Colleen Goddard puts it, transitional objects “represent the process by which [a person] can navigate life, and experience a homeostatic inner balance, a cohesive sense of well-being at every developmental milestone.” So hug that teddy bear or blankie a little closer tonight, because according to famed psychologist Abraham Maslow, having that kind of basic need met “matters more than anything else in the world.”

There is nothing sweeter than sharing your love wrapped up in a bonding blanket.

Click on the link for your special bonding blanket and give the gift that keeps on giving.

Our bonding blankets come in six patterns. When you check out just write the name of the pattern you want. Happy New Year to you and yours.

Camouflage Bonding Blanket- 'CAMI'

it represents the warrior, survivor, rock, strength, hero and a brave one.

Monkey Bonding Blanket- 'BABBS' 

represents the key to right living. See no evil, Hear no evil, Speak no evil along with playfulness creativity, positivity, truthfulness, sixth sense development.

Peace Neutral Bonding Blanket-'Inner Peace'

Represents freedom from disturbance; quiet and tranquility. A loving presence of kindness, stability. Peaceful Warrior, a high vibration of the heart!

Peace Pink Bonding Blanket- 'PEECEE' 

expresses the feminine peacemaker, calming one, grounded, serenity, and open heart.

Pink Bonding Blanket- 'DOTTIE' 

who is the color of the universal love of oneself and others; it also represents friendship, affection, harmony, inner peace, and approachability. Pink is the official color of feminine power and represents sugar and spice and everything nice. 

Giraffe Bonding Blanket - 'GEMMA' 

the jewel and it represents the wild side of life, symbolizes protection, visionary. Giraffe animal magic, foresight, and intuition. Giraffe Power Animal Symbol Of Grounded Vision Farsightedness.  

“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” ― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

Article from Anna Walters and rearranged by Dolby Dharma

What's your password?

When the energy flows through you easily, you are a conductor of some crazy good powerful light. Throughout the day when you notice your good intended thoughts, and you will, because you will feel amazing, give that mindful energy a BIG thank-you for those thoughts are the visions of your next moment. Align yourself to your highest intention and witness its manifestations. Dolby Dharma

May a good vision catch me
May a benevolent vision take hold of me and move me
May a deep and full vision come over me and burst open around me
May a luminous vision inform me, enfold me.
May I awaken into the story that surrounds,
May I awaken into the beautiful story.
May the wondrous story find me; here and now, on this day,
May I taste something sacred.~David Abram

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

R-E-S-P-E-C-T yourself

We have all heard the saying, how people treat you is often a reflection of how you treat yourself.

To honor yourself and others is to revere it, to show courteous regard, and also to hold ourselves in high respect.

When we are not saying 'NO' when we mean yes we are disrespecting ourselves and the other.

When we don't honor our bodies, our thoughts, actions, and spirit we are disrespecting ourselves and the other.

Each of us is guilty of showing disrespect at one time or another to someone else and ourselves.

Let's practice being more mindful of our thoughts, beliefs, ideas, and actions.

Let us be open to the opinions and ideas of others without having to rearrange them. Let's give the other's the same RESPECT we want for ourselves.

If we are struggling with respecting another, maybe the problem lies within, time for self-examination. It's a good idea to check in with ourselves when we feel rubbed the wrong way, after all, we can be very sensitive and take things out of content, not always, but sometimes.

People do show up and sometimes perform for our highest good, I call them the messengers of life. Sometimes it is not so much about what they are doing, but how we are reacting.

Our self-worth and self-respect for ourselves can be revealed in our responses and actions.  

We must take responsibility for how we are being treated, get away from the blame and shame game.

We must get to know ourselves more in a way that our intentions are for the highest good for ourselves and others: Kindness, openheartedness, and understanding, forgiveness and know that not everything is about us and that we can move on and away from a situation that does not serve us or the other.

Forgiveness for self and others will set us free, it takes away the judging, it just says we are all here working our way back to ourselves. 

Bottom line; Believe in yourself, treat yourself with respect and don't take anything personally. Dolby Dharma

“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.” Robert Tew

"Serving up a dose of deserve"

Self-acceptance or self-love, when approached from a deeper level of our true nature-love, is not superficial or vanity. Self-love is an honoring of our life-force by loving ourselves no matter what flaws, qualities or challenges we may hold within and express without.

We can begin each day with new thoughts, new discoveries, and a new awareness.

When are intentions are for the highest good of self-acceptance and kindness for humanity, everyone benefits!

We are all unique expressions working our way back to ourselves. How Awesome is that?

" You are allowed to be a masterpiece and work in progress simultaneously. - Sophia Bush"

— feeling Amazing.

Befriending Yourself; Make time for a play date."

"Befriending Yourself; Make time for a play date."

Day Fifteen of the Self-love 31-day 5-minute challenge: Friendship

I invite you to BEfriend yourself, you are wondering how do I do that, or what does that look like! First; everything begins within! There is no question about that. What's on the inside vibes on the outside, that is the law of attraction. Before we can be any kind of friend, we must start with ourselves. We most likely don't even think about ourselves in that light.

Today, just for five minutes’ feel what it's like to be a bit more “Self-ISH” (not selfish) but taking care of your own well-being and not leaving yourself behind so that you can bring to the table the very best YOU. After all, everywhere you go there you are, love that expression.

Being a friend to yourself is the introduction to the beginnings of relationships with others. First, we must approve and accept ourselves before we can share that friendship with another.

Think about how many times you have gone out of your way for a friend to be kind, and leave yourself out. How many times did you sacrifice yourself for another's attention and time without giving yourself that same courtesy? Plenty, I am sure, I know because I have done it.

It is crazy how great we can be to others showing them the BEST parts of our 'Giving Tree', but when it comes to our own needs, that goes on the back burner. Not being friends with ourselves doesn't allow sustainability with others. 

Being a good, kind, loving BF is showing YOURSELF that same grace and hospitality that we show our friends. Be kind to yourself, embrace your humanness; Celebrate yourself as a part of a whole family, the likenesses of all those outside ourselves, that we truly are, imperfect, perfect, filled with magic, filled with love to share and wanting to be loved, accepted, appreciated and most important, connected.

Self-friendship is knowing YOU. It’s not only about embracing the less appetizing parts of ourselves, but also engaging a strength that perhaps has gone unnoticed because we might have been looking outside for that part of ourselves. Befriending yourself is about coming into your fullness. If we don’t treat ourselves in a friendly manner, we don’t treat life in a friendly fashion.

I have always believed, "the best way to have a friend is to be a friend to yourself first and foremost."  What you do for yourself, affects your world outside of you, remember to practice random acts of kindness towards yourself! Dolby Dharma

The Mantra: I AM my own best friend. I choose to give love to myself first and foremost.

"Loving yourself...does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion." ~ Margo Anand