Comfort

We are not meant to stay wounded. We are supposed to move through our tragedies and challenges and to help each other move through the many painful episodes of our lives. By remaining stuck in the power of our wounds, we block our own transformation. We overlook the greater gifts inherent in our wounds — the strength to overcome them and the lessons that we are meant to receive through them. Wounds are the means through which we enter the hearts of other people. They are meant to teach us to become compassionate and wise.
~ Caroline Myss

Be Kind.

Affirmation: I am not my, name, my occupation, my body, or my status. I am a spiritual being moving through life, learning and growing in love, compassion and unity. ~ B.Beard

What did or do you have to comfort you as a kid and now an adult?

Did You Have A ‘Blankie’ As A Kid?
Hug that blankie a little closer tonight.

Whether it’s a blanket, a stuffed animal, or any scrap of something soft, comfort objects, also known as transitional objects, are used by many children as a way to soothe themselves without the help of their parents.

In 1951, child psychologist Dr. D.W. Winnicott first defined the transitional object as “any material to which an infant attributes a special value and by means of which the child can make the necessary shift from the earliest oral relationship with the mother to genuine object-relationships.”

In other words, these security blankets enable children to establish connections to the outside world, apart from the mother.
Such objects are commonly adopted when children go off to school or daycare as a way to ease the separation anxiety they experience away from Mom and Dad.

Contrary to the popular wisdom of the past, children with comfort objects are not defective or overly “babyish.” In fact, their comfort objects may empower them to be more independent than their peers. With the trusty reassurance of a teddy or blanket by their side, children can feel more secure in unfamiliar situations like daycare or school. When you fall on the playground and Mom isn’t there to kiss it better, that teddy or blankie makes it all okay. Studies show that kids with such objects are less shy and more focused than children without them. Their lovey objects are like the first training wheels for telling themselves “you’re all right.” With a built-in sense of security, children feel safe enough to take small risks, explore and grow.

As a child’s first chosen “not-me possession,” comfort objects help kids self-soothe and establish themselves as individuals separate from their parents. Because of the profound importance bestowed upon these items by the child, experts posit that any criticism or denial of the chosen toy may lead to attachment difficulties later in life.

Comfort objects are incredibly common: 60% of children have them, as well as 35% of adults.
It’s essential that children decide for themselves when to reject or put away their comfort object.

That’s not to say that comfort objects must be “outgrown.” Therapist Gerri Luce, LCSW says that even adults can benefit from the presence of beloved items to get them through difficult periods, as long as the object doesn’t interfere with one’s intimate or professional relationships (it’s probably best not to take blankie to work).

Many adults, whether they realize it or not, adopt other kinds of objects to cope with daily stresses.

Journals in which we express our feelings, keepsakes that remind us of a loved one, or even phones that connect us to others when we’re alone can serve functions similar to those of a child’s security blanket. While we may leave behind the beloved teddy bear, the need for a physical object that brings us joy and comfort is not specifically childish.

As psychologist Colleen Goddard puts it, transitional objects “represent the process by which [a person] can navigate life, and experience a homeostatic inner balance, a cohesive sense of well-being at every developmental milestone.” So hug that teddy bear or blankie a little closer tonight, because according to famed psychologist Abraham Maslow, having that kind of basic need met “matters more than anything else in the world.”

There is nothing sweeter than sharing your love wrapped up in a bonding blanket.

Click on the link for your special bonding blanket and give the gift that keeps on giving.

Our bonding blankets come in six patterns. When you check out just write the name of the pattern you want. Happy New Year to you and yours.

Camouflage Bonding Blanket- 'CAMI'

it represents the warrior, survivor, rock, strength, hero and a brave one.

Monkey Bonding Blanket- 'BABBS' 

represents the key to right living. See no evil, Hear no evil, Speak no evil along with playfulness creativity, positivity, truthfulness, sixth sense development.

Peace Neutral Bonding Blanket-'Inner Peace'

Represents freedom from disturbance; quiet and tranquility. A loving presence of kindness, stability. Peaceful Warrior, a high vibration of the heart!

Peace Pink Bonding Blanket- 'PEECEE' 

expresses the feminine peacemaker, calming one, grounded, serenity, and open heart.

Pink Bonding Blanket- 'DOTTIE' 

who is the color of the universal love of oneself and others; it also represents friendship, affection, harmony, inner peace, and approachability. Pink is the official color of feminine power and represents sugar and spice and everything nice. 

Giraffe Bonding Blanket - 'GEMMA' 

the jewel and it represents the wild side of life, symbolizes protection, visionary. Giraffe animal magic, foresight, and intuition. Giraffe Power Animal Symbol Of Grounded Vision Farsightedness.  

“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” ― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

Article from Anna Walters and rearranged by Dolby Dharma

Gemma the Giraffe

Giraffe Bonding Blanket - 'GEMMA' the jewel and it represents the wild side of life, symbolizes protection, visionary. Giraffe animal magic, foresight, and intuition. Giraffe Power Animal Symbol Of Grounded Vision Farsightedness.  

Click on the links above and to the right to buy! 😍

When I'm feeling sad, or lonely, and I don't know what I'm doing and I don't know where I'm going, I imagine the Cool Awesome Future Version of Myself just telling my present self, "It's okay. You just gotta grab that giraffe blanket and ride it on out." Jenna Marbles

What's your password?

When the energy flows through you easily, you are a conductor of some crazy good powerful light. Throughout the day when you notice your good intended thoughts, and you will, because you will feel amazing, give that mindful energy a BIG thank-you for those thoughts are the visions of your next moment. Align yourself to your highest intention and witness its manifestations. Dolby Dharma

May a good vision catch me
May a benevolent vision take hold of me and move me
May a deep and full vision come over me and burst open around me
May a luminous vision inform me, enfold me.
May I awaken into the story that surrounds,
May I awaken into the beautiful story.
May the wondrous story find me; here and now, on this day,
May I taste something sacred.~David Abram

"Serving up a dose of deserve"

Self-acceptance or self-love, when approached from a deeper level of our true nature-love, is not superficial or vanity. Self-love is an honoring of our life-force by loving ourselves no matter what flaws, qualities or challenges we may hold within and express without.

We can begin each day with new thoughts, new discoveries, and a new awareness.

When are intentions are for the highest good of self-acceptance and kindness for humanity, everyone benefits!

We are all unique expressions working our way back to ourselves. How Awesome is that?

" You are allowed to be a masterpiece and work in progress simultaneously. - Sophia Bush"

— feeling Amazing.

"First Love"

Day Twenty-Nine of the Self-love 31-day 5-minute Challenge: Open to loving YOU

Start with yourself when it comes to love.

Love is the light, the healing balm, the heartbeat of life.

Love is YOU. Take a chance on YOU. Dolby Dharma

I love this wisdom by Charlie Chaplin: written on his 70th Birthday!

As I began to love myself, I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.

As I began to love myself, I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it RESPECT.

As I began to love myself, I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it MATURITY.

As I began to love myself, I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment so I could be calm. Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.

As I began to love myself, I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do, and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it SIMPLICITY.

As I began to love myself, I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything the drew me down and away from myself. At first, I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.

As I began to love myself, I quit always trying to be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is MODESTY.

As I began to love myself, I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.

As I began to love myself, I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know THAT IS LIFE!

The Mantra: With every breath I take, I create more space for enjoying myself.

“Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with gold at both ends.”

― Aberjhani, Journey through the Power of the Rainbow

A self-unloved!

A self-unloved!
Self-love such a "cliché'" some say, but it is not. Last night, my brother passed away; he was three years younger than me. I watched and experienced him live in chaos his entire life, destroying all that was beautiful and good in his life all because he did not love himself.

He had many addictions, the main one was alcohol, he started drinking at a very young age. Alcohol like 'everything' in life, creeps in on you and takes you over, changes the chemistry in your body, mind, and spirit. Eventually, my brother's drinking became his method of self-medication; to escape his deep pain and suffering he lived with since a young boy.

 When I asked him why he drank; he said it took him away from himself and gave him a sense of feeling safe, powerful, and self-confidence, he would say, "I am on top of the world," that was his exact expression. I knew it was to escape his life, to escape the pain he was enduring within.

 Without getting into the details of my brother's life. In the earlier years, his late twenties, my early thirties. He was already showing signs of life that will eventually spiral down. The seeds of an unloved-self were being planted and watered in alcohol. As I revisit the memories of his life, I can see clearly that all the watering of love I or anyone could give wasn't the antidote to the love he needed to give himself. God only knows we all worked to make him better, but there is NO 'making' anyone better. Maybe we do it for ourselves so we can feel better so we can continue to be around. The truth is, none of us know what is best for anyone; it's an inside job.

There were so many times he wanted to quit drinking and get his life together, I so believed him, and so did he, but the patterned repeated itself too many times, my hope turned into anger, helplessness, and despair.

Back then I did not have that much knowledge about the depths of what alcoholism was, with the exception that I wanted to get away from it, our father was a drinker.

Bringing alcoholism and the behavior that stems from it to his relationships always ended badly. That called for another drink.

Eventually, everyone abandons him, only to confirm the ugly feelings he was feeling, the feelings that brought him to alcohol in the first place, to take him away from himself. But the truth was, he abandoned himself. He just could not grasp that concept.

No one could have saved him, but him, unfortunately when behaviors are involved not too many people want to take on that challenge, I for one tried to but had my issues to sort out. He tried rehab, but if you don't get to the roots, nothing changes. Recovery is a deep knowing, an AHA, and the answer.

The long goodnight finally came for my brother last night, despite all his crazy making he brought to our family, he was always loved by my husband and me. I could no long talk with him because his energy overpowered me, but my husband til the day he passed was kind, loving and a friend to my brother. I know that my husband's generosity was my brothers only hope that life was good.
He passed with that in his heart. Rest in peace little brother; now you are dancing amongst the stars. <3

Love yourself "Addiction is the only prison where the locks are on the inside."