Comfort

We are not meant to stay wounded. We are supposed to move through our tragedies and challenges and to help each other move through the many painful episodes of our lives. By remaining stuck in the power of our wounds, we block our own transformation. We overlook the greater gifts inherent in our wounds — the strength to overcome them and the lessons that we are meant to receive through them. Wounds are the means through which we enter the hearts of other people. They are meant to teach us to become compassionate and wise.
~ Caroline Myss

"You may be Right!"

"You may be Right!"

Mindfulness, how do we achieve it, after all, aren't we thinking all day long, are we not aware of our minds and our thoughts? NO, our minds are constantly streaming incoming events all day long and most of them we are NOT aware of. Autopilot can be a fantastic feature, but also a dangerous one too, especially if we are reacting first.

Let us awaken to not only being aware but being aware of the awareness.

Let's practice being aware of what flies out of our mouths, what flows into our minds and what cultivates our hearts. Most of us tend to react to life instead of taking it in first and then possibly respond. Sometimes the only response needed is; "You may be right". We are all in this together, like it or not! Dolby Dharma

"I continue to cultivate loving connections, being compassionate and kind whenever people, myself included, choose to speak negative words, for we all do from time to time. We are positively connected in this negativity thing, and everything else. Let compassion, kindness, and love unite us all. So, it is!" ~Tiny Buddha

"One day I woke up to myself"

"Befriending Yourself; Make time for a play date"

Day Fifteen of the Self-love 31-day 5-minute challenge: Friendship

I invite you to BEfriend yourself, you are wondering how do I do that, or what does that look like! First; everything begins within! There is no question about that. What's on the inside vibes on the outside, that is the law of attraction. Before we can be any kind of friend, we must start with ourselves. We most likely don't even think about ourselves in that light.

Today, just for five minutes’ feel what it's like to be a bit more “Self-ISH” (not selfish) but taking care of your own well-being and not leaving yourself behind so that you can bring to the table the very best YOU. After all, everywhere you go there you are, love that expression.

Being a friend to yourself is the introduction to the beginnings of relationships with others. First, we must approve and accept ourselves before we can share that friendship with another.
Think about how many times you have gone out of your way for a friend to be kind, and leave yourself out. How many times did you sacrifice yourself for another's attention and time without giving yourself that same courtesy? Plenty, I am sure, I know because I have done it.

It is crazy how great we can be to others showing them the BEST parts of our 'Giving Tree', but when it comes to our own needs, that goes on the back burner. Not being friends with ourselves doesn't allow sustainability with others.

Being a good, kind, loving BF is showing YOURSELF that same grace and hospitality that we show our friends. Be kind to yourself, embrace your humanness; Celebrate yourself as a part of a whole family, the likenesses of all those outside ourselves, that we truly are, imperfect, perfect, filled with magic, filled with love to share and wanting to be loved, accepted, appreciated and most important, connected.

Self-friendship is knowing YOU. It’s not only about embracing the less appetizing parts of ourselves, but also engaging a strength that perhaps has gone unnoticed because we might have been looking outside for that part of ourselves. Befriending yourself is about coming into your fullness. If we don’t treat ourselves in a friendly manner, we don’t treat life in a friendly fashion.

I have always believed, "the best way to have a friend is to be a friend to yourself first and foremost." What you do for yourself, affects your world outside of you, remember to practice random acts of kindness towards yourself! Dolby Dharma

The Mantra: I AM my own best friend. I choose to give love to myself first and foremost.

"Loving yourself...does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion." ~ Margo Anand

"I'm up on a tight wire-Holding my heart and head up high."

"I'm up on a tight wire-Holding my heart and head up high."

Day Eleven of the Self-love 31-day 5-minute challenge:  Balance

I invite you today to take five minutes and align your body, mind, and heart; all that this requires is that you step into yourself and feel the whole you.

We naturally carry 'opposite' energies within; masculine and feminine, strength and weaknesses, freedom and fear, love and dislike, and a host more emotional components that make us human, that can throw us out of balance. 

How do we know when we are out of balance? We will feel it: It shows up as resistance physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and energetically, we seem out of sorts, and we can't quite figure it out. With all the energies flying around us, it definitely can throw us off and contribute to our imbalances in life.   

Balance regime; feel the breath as it enters the body. On an inhalation, feel the fullness as everything expands, on exhalation,  emptying out what no longer serves you. Feel the sensation of the rise and fall of the chest, lungs, and abdomen as your body falls into balance, thank it!

Breathe deeply as you bring together all the sum parts of the whole you into alignment. Hold whatever comes up for you for five minutes, while you breathe in and out, bringing it all together, bringing in what you desire, letting go of what no longer serves you.

Our physical body supports us, but finding the balance with our mind and heart are essential, it has the "SuperPowers" to heal and bring balance into our lives.   Dolby Dharma

Today’s Affirmation: I balance and awaken all parts of myself. I Communicate my feelings openly and ask for what you want.

"Everything changes when you start to emit your own frequency rather than absorbing the frequencies around you when you start imprinting your intent on the universe rather than receiving an imprint from existence."-Barbara Marciniak

Drop the F-Bomb of Love!

Drop the F-Bomb of Love!

Day Nine of the Self-love 31-day 5-minute challenge: Forgiveness

I invite you to forgive today; take five minutes and think about who it is that needs or wants your forgiveness, or maybe you just need to lighten up and forgive yourself for something you have been heart-harboring. 

Why do we get hurt? It is a natural part of being human, at least it seems to be because there is an awful lot of hurt people walking around upset, avoiding parts of their lives, living in angry and not talking to the people they want to talk to.

For me, personally, I expect to be hurt at some point in life, it is unrealistic to think otherwise, unless you lock yourself up in a closet and never interact with anyone. I will most likely hurt someone too.

Bottom line we get hurt, not all the time and not by everyone, but often enough by those we love, not because people are mean and hurtful, but because people are most often victims of their own inner turmoil, and this turmoil just erupts now and again in ways that hurt others and ourselves. There is a crazy old song, titled; The things we do for love, yes, we do plenty including hurting the ones we love.

What is forgiveness; Forgiveness is about YOUR healing. Forgiveness clears the blocks and obstacles so you can attract the miraculous life you want when you give up negative blocks that the UNforgiven energy brings to your life. Forgiveness allows you the freedom to move about the cabin.

To For-give literally, means to give forth and liberate all energies around the unforgiveness that do not contribute to your expansion and highest good. Every moment is the perfect teacher, the lesson; to increase the power of love and forgiveness.

The easiest way to begin the forgiveness process is; using the Ho’oponopono practice, it is an ancient Hawaiian healing powerful prayer that produces miracles in life, give it a practice. This exercise is not for those you hurt but about releasing yourself from the turmoil of what or who hurt you.

The only way someone can hurt you is if you have given your power over to them. I have always told my clients that when you are discussing, complaining, harboring hurts; THEY OR IT OWNS YOU! Take back your power to love!  Dolby Dharma

Today's Affirmation: This one mantra can set you free, more than anything else.
I forgive you  💑 I love you 💑I'm sorry 💑 Thank YOU!

True forgiveness does not deny the suffering of the past but has a tremendous dignity and courage and power of love in it that says we will, and can, start again. ~Jack Kornfield

Remembered in love!

We are back in blog land after seven months of life changing events. Love exists in ALL ways and in each one of us. It always will be the best part of our lives.

Life is short not to send love, give love, and appreciate those who are in your life. Special tokens of love are so memorable to each of us. We always want to re-member and be remembered whether we are here on earth or transition to our next life. That is why adornments get passed down generation to generation. A time for remembering those who have left us.

Ellie, my partner, lost her dear beloved hubby on August 30th, 2016, so you can only imagine that blogging was not on the list. She was attending to her family and honoring the love she and Dewain shared for 52 years this month.

We love sharing stories about our bonding blankets; A couple of years ago Ellie sent Dewain a bonding blanket to let him know how much she cherished their love.

Dewain believed in our Bonding Blanket; he was so very supportive of all the things we wanted to accomplish with this little blanket of love.

Dewain slept with his Bonding Blanket every night up until the day he left planet earth. His Scent is left behind on his Bonding Blanket, and Ellie assures me that eventually she will wash this blanket filled with his love and replace the smell with his aftershave Cologne. Love never dies!

RIP Sweet Man!

“Silently, one by one, in the infinite meadows of heaven,

Blossomed the lovely stars, the forget-me-nots of the angels.” 
― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Mommy I love you (it begins with a healing).

 Click on the picture to read the entire article Healing the Mother Wound, a GREAT article. 

 Click on the link to read the entire article Healing the Mother Wound, a GREAT article. 

I was reading an article the other day about healing the Mother wound; I was very touched by many bullet points the article shared remembering the day of my healing with my mom at the young age of 24 years. When we are little, feeling connected to our moms in the early years is so natural, you did not think about it, after all, it is MOM, the caregiver, the MOTHER.

As time marched on and I got older I could feel the separation from my mom, not being conscious of the subtle change, I slowly was transferring my needs for comfort, understanding, and connection onto my girlfriends. The duality of life was taking form; I was disconnecting wanting to be independent, but still wanting my connection to my familiar mom. 

Fast forward with a connection in mind, in 2013 my partner Ellie Bracken and I created the 'The Bonding Blanket', a unique way to connect with our friends, loves, mentors, sibs, etc. The idea behind our bonding blanket is likened to the woobie blanket, a favorite toy that we felt connected, loved and safe with when we were young, and it was given to us by someone special, most likely our moms.

We have succeeded; how do we know this? The stories that our customers have shared with us, and the many ways the bonding blanket has been gifted. We know this bonding blanket is making a difference. We love our favorite things!

With all this in mind, let us not forget Mother's day is fast approaching and what a beautiful, loving way to express your feelings by giving her something she can cuddle with and know that she is loved. Don't forget your Grandmothers, Aunts, and anyone you want to show your love.
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